Why Every Woman Needs a “Girls Trip”
Early in the year, my friend invited me to be her guest for a wedding in St. Lucia. This was my first trip out of the country since 2010 and the first trip away from both my husband and my son for more than two days. I was nervous but I knew I needed it. I would often have my little getaways but would return still not feeling myself. It wasn’t until I flew thousands of miles away from my responsibilities that I could relax. I am every bit of a woman but when I am with my closest friends, it’s all about being a girl! There is a level of comfort women have when they get around their friends and the Girls Trip movie definitely reminded me of that. You can drink what you want, do what you want, wear what you want, be childish and get up when you feel like. Most adults don’t get that luxury everyday… and simply having the option to do so is what makes it so fun! In June, BlogHer held an advanced screening for the Girls Trip movie. Unfortunately I didn’t make it to the event but I was able to use my fandango voucher included in the BlogHer 17 swag bag.
Before I even saw the movie, I took the official personality quiz and got Ryan “The Boss” of the group. She is the narrator and essentially the main character of the movie. Ryan “has it all” or at least appears to. I think the quiz was correct in the sense that many people view my life that way. But unlike Ryan, my image is not well thought out or protected. There is no front with me. And even when I try to keep it real… no one believes me. LOL
Speaking of “keeping it real”… My friend told me I actually reminded her of Dina. I knew Dina would be the “Wild One”, but I had NO IDEA just how wild she would be. Tiffany Haddish carried that movie from beginning to end. Her comedy was ridiculous, embarrassing but HILARIOUS. The humor is not for everyone but I can guarantee that it will be back-to-back! I laughed so much I would miss the next joke. The antics of her character was exactly what made Girls Trip RATED R. Although I was dying with laughter I was kind of offended that someone would think that I was that crazy. Because I’m not. HOWEVER I am a bit of a defensive, daring and comedic (with or without a couple of drinks). So I guess that is
Dina me all the way.
I also see myself as Sasha, the blogger who has had a few bumps in the road but is finding her voice and career path. Although I am a fun friend, I know when its time to turn down and go home. I have been the voice of reason and designated driver several times as Lisa would be. Speaking of… I was so shocked that Jada’s played that role. I expected her to have a serious role but her character, Lisa is so uptight. It worked for the movie and Jada’s certainly had the “tight face” to match. Our girl really needs to lay off the cosmetic work. I can’t be the only one who noticed that, right? Anyhoo, the different personalities gives the right dynamic for a good trip…good times…good stories and most importantly…good friends.
I hate to sound cliché but I found myself on my girls tip – much like the ladies did in the movie. For that reason I will be looking for a girls trip at least once a year (if I can) just to keep me grounded. 😛 The Girls Trip movie was just the laugh I needed and it the message at the end was timely.
No one has the power to shatter your dreams unless you give it to them.
Only my closest friends knew that I entered this year feeling really down about where I was in life. I felt stuck. After St. Luicia, I gave myself permission to be who I am. The change was so strong that several people told me even my smile was different. I suddenly had the confidence to go on several leaps of faith since then. One of those leaps was attending BlogHer 17 (ironic right?). Change can be scary but it is necessary and crucial to our growth. So if you get a chance to go on your own girls trip, you might just evolve into the woman you were meant to be as well.
Now GO SEE THAT MOVIE if you haven’t and leave the kids at home.